Brenda Youngerman
Brenda Youngerman is a single mother who raised her 3 children in southern California when they were not living with
their father. She has first hand knowledge of what emotional trauma can do to a family as she was the product of a broken
home.
She was the youngest member in a very large family and always felt like she was on the outside looking in. She believes
that is how she learned to observe life swirling around her and that has given her the edge to write "Fiction With a
Purpose," novels about real people in real life situations. She tries to paint a picture of life as it is to give her readers that
ability to see situations from a different point of view. Her goal as an author is to have ONE reader pick up a novel and see
a similarity in his or her life and see an opportunity to do something to make their life better.
When she goes out and speaks to large groups the subject of domestic abuse is normally brought up. "Unfortunately,
domestic abuse is a subject that literally affects every family in this country, and throughout the world. There is not one
person that I have spoken to that does not know a member of their family tree that has been touched by domestic abuse.
Be it physical, emotional, mental, sexual, alcohol or drug related. All of these forms of abuse can be boiled down to
domestic abuse as they alter the way a family lives and behaves.
"Domestic abuse is a quiet demon that affects all walks of life: rich or poor. It is often kept hidden and the victims are
ashamed of their fate.I write to shine the light so maybe someone will see that victims are not to blame. I weave a tale
incorporating a story of average people getting involved in average issues that they cannot control. My hope is that
someone will pick up one of my books and realize that they are not alone, that there are thousands of people available to
them, to help them. I do believe that one person can make a difference.
"I have been asked, more times than I can count, "How can you tell if someone is in an abusive relationship?" Please do
not take that I am an expert, but here are 10 signs to look for and if you or someone you know can say yes to 7 of these,
you might want to take a good look at the relationship.
How to know if you are in an abusive relationship:
1 You are making excuses for your partner. Behaviors that are unacceptable (such as lying, cheating, stealing, or hitting)
become defendable in your eyes.
2 You slowly lose touch with your family and friends.
3 Your partner is your only means of social interaction.
4 Your partner is extremely jealous of any conversation you have with the opposite sex; might even grill you after you get
home from work.
5 If you have children, you will be berated for not being good enough to be their parent.
6 Confidence you once had in yourself will be gone.
7 You will no longer be looking others in the eye when talking to them.
8 Your partner will have you convinced that no one else will want you and that you will never make it without him/her.
9 You no longer take pride in your outward appearance.
10 Home becomes more of a prison than a sanctuary.
This breaking down of a human being takes a period of time, it does not happen overnight. Even the most experienced
abuser needs time. If a controlling person can persuade someone into their lair, the victim never sees it coming, and is not
aware that their own persona is gone.
Please enjoy the books, and if you have any thoughts or feedback, please feel free to write on the blog page!
Brenda Youngerman
their father. She has first hand knowledge of what emotional trauma can do to a family as she was the product of a broken
home.
She was the youngest member in a very large family and always felt like she was on the outside looking in. She believes
that is how she learned to observe life swirling around her and that has given her the edge to write "Fiction With a
Purpose," novels about real people in real life situations. She tries to paint a picture of life as it is to give her readers that
ability to see situations from a different point of view. Her goal as an author is to have ONE reader pick up a novel and see
a similarity in his or her life and see an opportunity to do something to make their life better.
When she goes out and speaks to large groups the subject of domestic abuse is normally brought up. "Unfortunately,
domestic abuse is a subject that literally affects every family in this country, and throughout the world. There is not one
person that I have spoken to that does not know a member of their family tree that has been touched by domestic abuse.
Be it physical, emotional, mental, sexual, alcohol or drug related. All of these forms of abuse can be boiled down to
domestic abuse as they alter the way a family lives and behaves.
"Domestic abuse is a quiet demon that affects all walks of life: rich or poor. It is often kept hidden and the victims are
ashamed of their fate.I write to shine the light so maybe someone will see that victims are not to blame. I weave a tale
incorporating a story of average people getting involved in average issues that they cannot control. My hope is that
someone will pick up one of my books and realize that they are not alone, that there are thousands of people available to
them, to help them. I do believe that one person can make a difference.
"I have been asked, more times than I can count, "How can you tell if someone is in an abusive relationship?" Please do
not take that I am an expert, but here are 10 signs to look for and if you or someone you know can say yes to 7 of these,
you might want to take a good look at the relationship.
How to know if you are in an abusive relationship:
1 You are making excuses for your partner. Behaviors that are unacceptable (such as lying, cheating, stealing, or hitting)
become defendable in your eyes.
2 You slowly lose touch with your family and friends.
3 Your partner is your only means of social interaction.
4 Your partner is extremely jealous of any conversation you have with the opposite sex; might even grill you after you get
home from work.
5 If you have children, you will be berated for not being good enough to be their parent.
6 Confidence you once had in yourself will be gone.
7 You will no longer be looking others in the eye when talking to them.
8 Your partner will have you convinced that no one else will want you and that you will never make it without him/her.
9 You no longer take pride in your outward appearance.
10 Home becomes more of a prison than a sanctuary.
This breaking down of a human being takes a period of time, it does not happen overnight. Even the most experienced
abuser needs time. If a controlling person can persuade someone into their lair, the victim never sees it coming, and is not
aware that their own persona is gone.
Please enjoy the books, and if you have any thoughts or feedback, please feel free to write on the blog page!
Brenda Youngerman
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