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Seventeen

Sunday, July 26th, 2009

Do you remember what it was like to be seventeen? I do! It was horrible. I think Janis Ian summed it up best in her song ‘Seventeen’ – now how many people remember that?

Seventeen is the age when you are so ready to grow up — you know so much more than your parents – after all they are stupid, what do they know? You’re not really a kid anymore, and you’re not really an adult, but your sure want to have all the priveleges that go with being an adult, but none of the responsibilities that go with it.

Seeing how devastating broken homes can be on children, it is no wonder that there are more and more teenagers wandering the streets these days. We as parents will do anything we can to make sure our own children are safe. But sometimes I wonder if we are being blackmailed. I have been a single parent for a very long time, and let’s just say that the other parent has been much more like a child than an adult. He always manages to swoop in and be ‘the good guy’ just in time to make me look like the evil witch of the west. I can only hope someday these kids will realize the truth, but living through it has been less than fun. Now, I have the ultimate pleasure of watching my seventeen year old daughter move out with her boyfriend and become an ‘adult.’

She doesn’t have a job. She’s going to college. He has a job and is never home. How long do you think this ‘honeymoon’ will last? But that’s okay…I’m not seventeen and I don’t know anything! Sometimes tough love is tougher on the person giving it than on the person receiving it.

Hmmmm….maybe the next novel is born…………..

Independence Day

Friday, July 3rd, 2009

When you see the word independence it conjures up so many different meanings. For the forefathers of this country it was the ideology of having a country where the government was run by the people, for the people; no taxation without representation and every voice was to be heard. That was the independence they were talking about – away from King George.

Then you think about the independence an eighteen year old thinks about – the ability to do whatever they want, whenever they want,with whomever they want. That type of independence is only available in a country like ours, where the freedoms we take for granted exist.

Then you think about the independence an abuse victim thinks about. The ability to break free from the abuser and live a life free from fear, free to do what they need to do without looking over their shoulder, or constantly hiding. The type of independence 50% of the common population cannot fathom, or does not choose to discuss.

Then you think about the independence of a parent who has not got an ‘empty nest.’ How do you start all over again when all of the children have grown up and moved away. The job you had for over twenty years is finished and you find yourself living in an empty shell – just a place holder. Now would be the perfect time to seize that independence and make a move for a brand new start. Follow the footsteps of that teenager, or those forefathers and enter the next phase. Carpe Diem!